Today is where your book begins, but it doesn't have to go unwritten!

Most of you have heard the song "Unwritten" by Natasha Beddingfield right?  It is an amazing song that talks about how each day is a brand new day to start again and do better.  The thing is, we can write our stories before they happen. They don't have to go unwritten.... Think about it!  If every day you are focusing on only the negative things in life, you will naturally attract negativity.  You can begin each day by writing in a journal.  First, write about all of the things you are grateful for.  Then, continue writing about how you want your day to be, and write about it as if it has already happened.  Write about how grateful you are for having a wonderful day that was filled with all that you wished and dreamed for the day to be.  Go further than that and even write about all that you wish for the most as if you already have those things.  There is a really great movie out there that I'd like to recommend to every one I know.  It's called "The Secret".  It is an amazing movie about life and being positive.  Check it out! you will be so glad that you did!  I found it on Netflix,  but there is also a web page: http://thesecret.tv/
"The greatest power in the universe is a feeling - a feeling harnessed by the greatest thinkers, discoverers, inventors, and saviors of the world.

You are just one feeling away from changing your life... just one feeling away from the life of your dreams.

This is The Power!"~Rhonda Byrne

Some quotes to think about. Happy Monday morning world!

Happy Monday Morning World!  The sun is shining (if it isn't shining outside, make it shine with your attitude!) and their are a million things to be thankful for!

1 - The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.   
Remember not to forget about the people that helped you achieve your dreams, and the ones who were always there for you.  
2 - You ought to spend a little more time trying to make something of yourself & a little less time trying to impress people. 
Being yourself is the most important and the bravest thing you can do.  If you aren't true to yourself, you will be a very lonely person.
3 - Sometimes you gotta quit thinking so much. If it feels right, it probably is. So just go with it.


4 - The more you are like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique. 
It's okay to be who you are :)


5 - Let your heart guide you. It whispers, so listen closely.


6 - The past can hurt. You can either run from it or learn from it.
Learn all that you can!


7 - Once in a lifetime, you meet a person who takes your breath away; not because you want them to, but because they're meant to. 
They may not stay forever, so cherish the moments you are given.


8 - Memories are strange things. Some are so incredibly clear, probably because you've thought about them a thousand times. 
But don't get stuck in the past...keep moving forward.


9 - Just because you're right for each other, doesn't mean you're right for each other right now. 


10 - Once in a lifetime, right in the middle of an ordinary life, we get a chance at a fairytale.


11 - Let your guard down; take a fall you'll never know if you're loved unless you give it your all.


12 - Don't gain the world and lose your soul. Wisdom is better than silver and gold.
No amount of success is worth losing who you really are.  In the end, if you give up every one and every thing that has really been something precious to you then all you have left is you, and chances are if you have turned against your truest friends, you won't like your own company very much either.
14 - You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.
Take a deep breath, and take it one day at a time...but keep moving!
15 - Nobody knows your limits better than you do, but every once in a while somebody will question all you know and they will push you for the better.


16 - If you're going to go through hell, I suggest you come back learning something.


17- The beautiful thing about memories is that they are yours; whether they are good, bad, or indifferent. They belong to you, and no matter where life takes you, your memories tie you to where you've been, and to where you are now.
I am thankful for every memory, and for all of the friends who have come and gone...I've learned a great deal from all of them.

18- Goodbye is like putting a period to a sentence. There will be no more words to be added after the period. Unless if you make another new sentence.

Sometimes, you just have no new sentences...it's okay, no matter how much it hurts to say goodbye, life will indefinitely go on.

19 - You know you really love some one when you can not hate them for breaking your heart.

Take another look!

What do you see when you look at you?  I'm always hearing girls talk about how they wish they could change something about their body, their face, even their fingers and toes.  Why do we worry so much about these things?  True beauty really does come from within.  Unfortunately our society has its quirky ideas of what "beauty" is.  We are bombarded with pictures of sickly thin models, dolls that misrepresent the image of a woman, and countless articles about losing weight, dressing right, and it goes on and on.  I think that we as woman are sometimes just too hard on ourselves.  What other people see in us is way different than what we see.  Take another look in the mirror and realize the true beauty that comes from within you.  It is only when we learn to love who we are from the inside out that we will begin to feel truly beautiful, and believing in and loving yourself doesn't cost anything but some extra time to reflect on your feelings for yourself.  

Here's to all of you truly beautiful women out there!  It is a poem by the most awesome Maya Angelou.

Phenomenal Woman- Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size But when I start to tell them, They think I'm telling lies. I say, It's in the reach of my arms The span of my hips, The stride of my step, The curl of my lips. I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me. I walk into a room Just as cool as you please, And to a man, The fellows stand or Fall down on their knees. Then they swarm around me, A hive of honey bees. I say, It's the fire in my eyes, And the flash of my teeth, The swing in my waist, And the joy in my feet. I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me. Men themselves have wondered What they see in me. They try so much But they can't touch My inner mystery. When I try to show them They say they still can't see. I say, It's in the arch of my back, The sun of my smile, The ride of my breasts, The grace of my style. I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me. Now you understand Just why my head's not bowed. I don't shout or jump about Or have to talk real loud. When you see me passing It ought to make you proud. I say, It's in the click of my heels, The bend of my hair, the palm of my hand, The need of my care, 'Cause I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me.

You can't fix everything

I haven't been writing for the last few days mostly because I've been in a bit of rut this week.  Why is it that I just want to fix everything?  Do you ever feel like that?  I guess some things just can't be fixed...but moving on and forgetting about the things you really want to make better is so hard sometimes.  I don't have any magic inspiration or wise words about how to do it either.  I think that maybe it just takes time and baby steps to feel better.  It does really help to focus on the positive things in your life though.  Even when it seems like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, there are always so many things to be thankful for.  I have a beautiful family, an amazing husband, and I have a few very close friends that I know I can always count on.  These are all some really amazing things to be thankful for and to focus on.

Life doesn't end because of accidents or mistakes

Have you ever made a mistake so horrible, you thought for sure your life just couldn't go on.  It is a pretty overwhelming feeling when this kind of thing happens.  I just watched a video clip about a girl who made the decision one day to jump a train with her friends.  She had done it before, but this time it was different.  She actually had a feeling before she jumped that she shouldn't be doing it, and suddenly she was lying on the ground and realizing that both of her legs were gone.  She fell and the train ran over her legs.  Do you ever get those feelings of intuition, or "gut feelings" as they are sometimes called?  Usually when we get those feelings it is for a reason, but we don't always pay attention to them because we are caught up in a moment.  The most inspiring thing I heard that girl say in her interview was that "Life doesn't end because of an accident."  Life does not end because of our accidents or mistakes....it feels like it will, but it doesn't.  The beauty of life is that we have the choice to find positives in all of the negatives that are thrown at us.  Obviously there will be moments where we hurt over the consequences of our actions.  We will have days when we want to just sit and cry.  Crying is okay, and it is an amazing release of emotion.  Just realize that, with those tears , we can wash away the negativity and the sadness.  Move on one day at a time, and keep reaching for your dreams.

Rainy days and Mondays Always Get Me Down

The rain will fall
The rain will pour
But through it all
you can endure...

Stay positive!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJNlDcvtgew&feature=related

The truth and forgiveness will set you free.

Have you ever done something you thought you could never be forgiven for?  It's not such a great feeling carrying something like that around with you all of the time.  It's not always easy to tell the truth either.  Sometimes it is the scariest thing in the world to do.  The thing is....if you don't tell the truth, you are a prisoner of the lies and secrets that you keep...if you do tell the truth, you get it out, and then you hold your breath for a bit.  You wait, and if you are granted understanding and forgiveness you are overwhelmed with a feeling of blessing and relief like you've never felt before.  Sometimes you wait, and you wait, and you wait, and you wait a little more, and nothing ever gets rectified.  That can be a lonely feeling sometimes.  It can make you feel pretty sad and lost, but you told the truth.  You did the right thing, and that in and of itself will set you free.  You can't make someone understand you or forgive you.  Sometimes that can only come with time, and maybe it won't come at all...but you have to know that you did all that you could telling the truth and asking for forgiveness.  If you don't get forgiveness from the person you asked it from, do yourself a huge favor and give it to yourself and pick your head up and and move on. One day at a time, and one foot in front of the the other, you've got to move on.

Let Them Talk About You

Here's some things to think about:

I was thinking especially this morning about numbers 2 and 6.  If someone has something to say about you, yep...they should talk to you about it, but we all know that doesn't always happen.  We are all guilty of telling someone else our problems with another person.  If you don't do that and you have absolutely no problem going directly to a person with your problems towards them, awesome!
A lot of the time, people won't tell you directly how they feel because they don't want confrontation any more than you do....so, stop thinking so much about it and don't let it drive you crazy. ( I've been working really hard on doing this myself).  It's okay if someone doesn't like you, or if someone is upset with you.  It's all a part of life.  If we constantly dwell on what we think other people think of us we will worry our lives away.
So, logically we should realize it isn't healthy to obsess over what others think of us! It's none of our business unless they make it our business, and thinking too much about it will only drive you nuts!

Never Give Up on You

It is easy to talk about your dreams...but how easy is it to achieve them?  It isn't!  It takes a lot of hard work and determination to accomplish the things you most desire in life.  There will be days when you want to throw in the towel, throw up your arms, and say, "I give up!",but when you keep trudging up that hill and give it all you have, then in the end when you finally reach your goal, it makes you so much happier and leaves you feeling so proud and thankful. It doesn't matter, however, how many people tell you to be motivated, to believe in yourself, to work harder,or to not give up.  It doesn't matter until you believe that you can do it.  The belief and hope you have in yourself will determine your outcomes.  Success is all about attitude and perseverance.  You cannot solely rely on others to get you to where you want to be.  You are the dreamer of your dreams, so you must be the one who believes in them and works for them.  Never give up on you, and you will at least always have one person who believes in you!

The Positiveness in Letting Go and the Meaning of "busy"

What does it mean to be busy?  Really, what does it mean?  We all have those moments in our lives when we really are just so overwhelmed with work, with family issues, with life issues, multiple obligations, school work, and so on, and so on.  As of late, however, I have noticed the word busy being used as an excuse to avoid things.  The biggest overuse of the word busy seems to be in the avoidance of relationship issues.  Whether it is a friend or a boyfriend, or a girlfriend constantly saying, "I'm just so busy", or, "I don't have time to talk", it makes you think long and hard about what they mean by the word "busy".
When you start to think on such things, you may find yourself getting really sad over the situation.  You may wonder if the person ever really thought much of you at all.  Was your friendship real?  Was it of any value?
 I know the answer to the last question is definitely YES!  Even if you never get the time or opportunity to be with that person ever again, you will still have learned a very valuable lesson from them.  You will have learned that you are strong enough to move on without them, even if it seemed that you would never be able to do it...you can keep on going!  It may hurt you to move on, but over time that hurt will heal and will only make you more convicted and stronger.
 If someone really wants you in their life, they will make the time to be a part of yours.  When you learn that it is okay to let them go, you will be empowering yourself to move on.  It doesn't mean that you should be disrespectful of them, or ignore them when you see them, it just means that you are allowing yourself to be freed from the emotional tie that they had on you....and then you can continue to dream, and hope and be positive!  That is the positiveness in letting go :)

Positive Affirmations

Have you ever heard of positive affirmations?  Simply put, it's just a way of getting yourself pumped and motivated every day by telling yourself really positive things from morning until evening.  Did you ever hear someone say, "if you say it enough times, you believe it."?  This is actually mostly true. You have to dig down, deep inside, to find the courage to believe sometimes.  Sometimes you are just so bogged down with the negativity that tries to overpower all of us, and it is really hard to even find positive things to say.  Knowing your worth the time it takes to dig and to believe in yourself is the first step of positive affirmations.  Then, you can begin to really feel them every day.  If you aren't sure where to start with positive affirmations, here's a video I made about 3 years or so ago when I started on my journey towards positiveness.  It is really long because I got carried away with all of the wonderful quotes I found to put into it.  I called it my meditation video.  It is really relaxing, and hopefully some of the words in it can get you started on your way to daily positive affirmations, and even just finding the positive in your life.

Embrace the Differences

If you're anything like me, you might think a lot about what other people think of you.  I just have that type of personality I guess, and I tend to obsess over what other people think.  Sometimes it keeps me from getting done what needs doing.  It may seem to silly to others who don't have that type of personality, but I know there are lots of others out there just like me.  It's taken me a long time to realize that it's okay if people don't like me....but it doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt still.  I guess it just doesn't hurt as much.  Maybe in time I will get over it a little more.  Remember, even if your personality is very different from another persons, that doesn't give you the right to judge them...and there is no reason to try and change them.  It takes all kinds of people to make this world go 'round.